"Finally someone has written the book that breast
cancer patients and their families have been waiting for. Marc Silver
understands that the person with cancer is not the only one affected
by this disease. Husbands need help, too.
Here's a practical guide for the too many men who will need it."
Roberts, news analyst
and breast cancer survivor
"Breast cancer is a family affair. Marc Silver touches the
raw nerves of breast cancer husbands with insight, tenderness,
wisdom, and just the right amount of humor to both help and heal.
This book is a gift to them-and to the women they love."
Bernadine Healy, M.D.,
former director of the National Institutes
of Health and U.S. News & World Report medical columnist
"When breast cancer happens to the woman you love, all
you want to do is fix it and make it go away. This terrific book
gives partners the useful and sensitive answers they need to so
many of the how tos? what ifs? and when wills? that come up along
Marisa Weiss, M.D.,
founder and president of breastcancer.org
A supercharged survival guide for men
and women confronting any life-threatening illness. Well-informed
and practical, Silver covers the controversies and conflicts that
arise under fire and guides you with love, support, and inspiration."
director of patient and family support
at the University of California at San Diego Cancer Center
"BREAST CANCER HUSBAND gives
husbands, partners, and families of women with breast cancer exactly
what they need. With a wonderful blend of empathy, humor, and information,
Silver normalizes all the intense feelings of this experience. This
book functions as a buddy and an on-call support group for men who
love women with breast cancer."
Hester Hill Schnipper,
oncology social worker and author of After Breast Cancer: A Common-Sense
Guide to Life After Treatment
"BREAST CANCER HUSBAND illuminates the challenges that a loved
one's cancer diagnosis presents and the helplessness husbands often
feel. Marc Silver provides vital resources and solutions for caretakers
and honestly addresses sensitive issues."
Mitch Stoller, president
and CEO, Lance Armstrong Foundation
"No one should face breast cancer alone. But how does a husband
support his wife when he may be feeling frustrated, sad, and angry
himself? Author Marc Silver fills an essential niche with his book,
BREAST CANCER HUSBAND, offering emotional support and practical
advice to help men be compassionate caregivers-everything from tips
for talking to children to a frank discussion of sexuality and intimacy."
Nancy G. Brinker, founder
of the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation
"When cancer happens, it happens to the entire family-not just
the person with the diagnosis. Marc Silver knows this and-thank
goodness-has written an honest, informative, and yes, even humorous
guide for breast cancer husbands. A must-read for every man who's
learning to live with breast cancer."
Diane Perlmutter, CEO,
Gilda's Club Worldwide
Silver, an editor at U.S. News & World Report, speaks encouragingly
in this heartfelt, useful guide for men whose wives or girlfriends
have been diagnosed with breast cancer, as was his wife, Marsha,
in 2001. Silver, who consulted with surgeons and oncologists for
this book, first helps readers deal with the diagnosis, addressing
men's stereotypical reactions (usually saying little, followed by
overbearing urges to fix the problem), then advising them how to
behave (ask questions and, more importantly, listen). He nicely
interweaves comments from men and women who have gone through breast
cancer diagnosis, setting them off with pull quotes and how-to sidebars
such as "Husbanding Her Energies" and "Caring for
the Caregiver." His advice is simple and sound: rather than
saying "Cheer up, honey, the doctor said things aren't that
bad," Silver recommends, "Is there anything I can do to
make you feel better?" He discusses the surprisingly numerous
cases in which men have left their spouses, discusses the importance
of wives having an "appointment pal" and advises on explaining
cancer to children. Silver also smartly examines the various treatments
and suggests ways for readers to find sexual intimacy after a mastectomy.
This guide is an invaluable compement to Dr. Susan Love's Breast
Book and John Link's The Breast Cancer Survival Manual.
Husbands or boyfriends of women with breast cancer are usually the
least addresses in guides to the disease. An editor at U.S. News
& World Report, Silver was a clueless as the next man when his
wife, Marsha, was diagnosed. Failing to find a manual showing men
how to offer the most support and care, he wrote his own. Silver
gathered information from medical professionals and men in the same
boat, covering every conceivable challenge to life with breast cancer
(including suggestions on how to wash a woman's hair while she is
wearing drains). Silver's prose is funny, tender, and filled with
rock-solid advice. Highly recommended.